It’s been canceled or rescheduled. I don’t know which.
That’s probably just as well. There’s a winter weather advisory here, and a winter storm warning over the county line north and west. Which here in Sauk Centre is about a mile and eight miles, respectively.
We’re expecting between a hundredth and a tenth of an inch of ice and maybe three inches of snow. And sleet in Sunday’s early hours. This is why I prefer sincerely cold weather. And that’s another topic.
Around noon (we’re in the UTC -6 time zone) on Christmas Eve, my wife’s brother’s wife had a heart attack.
They were both at their home. He applied CPR, an ambulance took her to a hospital, and she died.
My wife got a call from a kinswoman a couple hours later.
When the conversation was over, my wife made more calls. By that evening, I figure everyone who was near their telephone or online connection knew what had happened. Our family’s grapevine is fairly efficient.
One of my brothers-in-law was with the now-widower by the time this household got the news. For that, I’m glad. He, the widower, is and will be grieving. A lot.
This will affect family plans for the next week or so, probably beyond. How, I’ve no idea. Nobody does, likely enough.
Oddly enough, I’m not experiencing emotional responses to my sister-in-law’s death. Apart from part of a holiday song playing on a loop in my head. And insomnia. Experience suggests that the feelings will come when my brain’s failsafes go back to standby mode.
As I said, this is going to be interesting.
Folks have learned to be resigned to death, we’ve learned how to delay death.
But somehow, it just doesn’t feel right.
And small wonder, since we’re made “in the image of God.”
I don’t look forward to my death, or anyone else’s. It’s a bit like the feelings I had about finals week, back in my college days.
It feels monumentally unfair.
But as I’ve said in another context, God’s God, I’m not, and I’m okay with that. Grudgingly, sometimes, and that’s yet another topic.
I also don’t know how I’d provide support or comfort to my brother-in-law, or if I’ll have the opportunity.
There’s more to say, but I’m not up to sorting out ideas and arranging words on that topic. Those topics. Not today.
Maybe these quotes will do for now. Or maybe not.
“…The centre of every man’s existence is a dream. Death, disease, insanity, are merely material accidents, like toothache or a twisted ankle. That these brutal forces always besiege and often capture the citadel does not prove that they are the citadel….”
(“Twelve Types,” G. K. Chesterton (1906) via Google Books)
“Life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.”
(From Carly Simon, Fr. Bede Jarrett, William Penn, or Rossiter W. Raymond.1)
“Of necessity we must be sorrowful when those whom we love leave us in death. Although we know that they have not left us behind forever but only gone ahead of us, still when death seizes our loved one, our loving hearts are saddened by death itself. … Our weakness weights us down, but faith bears us up. We sorrow over the human condition, but find our healing in the divine promise.”
(Sermon 172, St. Augustine of Hippo (ca. 400) via Universe of Faith)
“Do not avoid those who weep,
but mourn with those who mourn.”
“The number of their days seems great
if it reaches a hundred years.
“Like a drop of water from the sea and a grain of sand,
so are these few years among the days of eternity.
“That is why the Lord is patient with them
and pours out his mercy on them.”
“But as it is written:
‘What eye has not seen, and ear has not heard,
and what has not entered the human heart,
what God has prepared for those who love him,'”
(1 Corinthians 2:9)
“I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, ‘Behold, God’s dwelling is with the human race. He will dwell with them and they will be his people and God himself will always be with them [as their God].
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there shall be no more death or mourning, wailing or pain, [for] the old order has passed away.'”
- “Enjoying Another Christmas”
(December 16, 2019)
- “Sickness, Death, God, Love and Questions”
(February 23, 2019)
- “Death, Funerals — and Life”
(September 30, 2018)
- “Death in the Family”
(September 14, 2018)
- “Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Hope”
(October 9, 2016)
1 “Life is eternal…” is from the fourth track of the Have You Seen Me Lately Carly Simon album and a poem by Fr. Bede Jarrett; which he said he copied from something William Penn wrote. Or it’s from Rossiter W. Raymond’s “Death is Only an Horizon.”